How to Use the Law of Attraction

Posted by Harmony Rousseau on Oct 2, 2009 in Law of Attraction, Psychology, Secret Movie | 0 comments

Yesterday, I started a 100 Day Challenge to see what I can manifest in my life over the next 100 days. I mentioned that one of the secrets to increasing your productivity was to write down the six most important things you must get done, and to work on them one by one until each is completed. This strategy is fundamental to manifesting your goals in your life.

If you’ve watched the movie, The Secret, you got a quick introduction to the law of attraction, but the movie doesn’t go into much detail about how to apply those principles in your life. Perhaps you believe, but need practical advice on how to apply the teachings in your life. Perhaps you are skeptical – can your thoughts really influence what manifests in your life?

If you are skeptical, that’s understandable. Much of the “science” behind The Secret seems hokey. I mean, how often do we “wish” for things that never manifest? As I write this, the Powerball lottery sits at about $190 million. I have yet to manifest that check into my life – though I keep trying.

While you might not be able to influence the Powerball numbers, let’s talk about things you do have control over.

Your thoughts – At its core, the law of attraction is about monitoring your thoughts and becoming aware of negativity, criticism and blame. When things don’t work to our advantage, our inner critic often berates us for not living up to our own standards. Often, we don’t give ourselves the same love and respect we give to other people. Instead, we focus on our weaknesses and can end up thinking in circles and this downward spiral of thoughts leads to self-sabotage.

But what if we turned it around and loved ourselves? If we have a bad day, we comfort ourselves like we might comfort our friends and loved ones and tried to cheer them up? When we look at others’ lives, we can see that things usually aren’t as bad as our friend believes. It’s never the end of the world, and there is almost always a solution or workaround to whatever is causing the problem.
Your attitude – It’s easy to fall into a pattern of hopelessness and despair when things aren’t going your way. Maybe you don’t have enough money, or have relationship troubles, or aren’t happy with your career. Yet regardless of where you are in life, you can choose to see the glass as half empty or half full. What in your life are you grateful for? What are your strengths? What is positive in your life?
It’s easy to fall into the pattern of thinking about what’s wrong – but how often do we reflect on what’s right with our lives? If you start and end each day by being appreciative of what you have, it’s amazing how your whole outlook can change.
Your behaviors – The truth is, we may not be able to control everything that happens to us. We can’t control how others behave or factors outside ourselves. The only thing we do have complete control over is our reaction to things. We can choose to worry, blame, take offense, or become defensive. Or we can see the bright side of things. You know the saying – every cloud has a silver lining.
The next time something doesn’t go as planned, become aware of your own reaction. Do you get angry and curse? Or can you laugh it off as no big deal? If you are in the wrong, can you learn from your mistakes? Can you genuinely apologize if you’ve hurt someone? When you find yourself in an argument or dispute, can you take a step back and really listen to the concerns of the other person without becoming defensive? Can you view the other with compassion – and take their words to heart? Can you see the world from their perspective and empathize with their side of the story?

Action Step – Start a Gratitude Journal

In the movie, The Secret, they discuss writing down what you are thankful for each day. Journaling can be a great way to become aware of your own beliefs, explore your feelings and get to know yourself better. If something is bothering you, it is often helpful to clarify your thoughts by writing them down, rather than letting your mind run circles around the issue without resolution.

Often, when you see your own thoughts on paper, you will gain a new perspective and be able to approach the issue differently. It will also help you clear your mind – it’s now down on paper, so you don’t have to remember every last detail. You can write whatever you like and have your say, then read over it – is it a fair assessment of the situation? If it was a friend telling you about their problems, rather than your own writings, what advice would you give?

The law of attraction is about becoming extremely clear not only about what you want in your life, but about how you can overcome any perceived obstacles that are standing between you and your goals. When you focus on what you want, you can take small inspired action steps to achieve those goals. By tracking your daily process, you can see that you are making progress – or where you are stuck and need to make adjustments.

Remember, a goal is just a “wish” until you commit to achieving it.